Have you stared at that ring on your finger and it is just not love at first sight? You have even lived with it for a few days, weeks or months and still can’t see yourself living with that engagement ring for the rest of your life? Don’t feel so bad about it; you are not the only one. Here are some steps to gracefully handle this situation without compromising your relationship and feeling that sense of guilt in potentially hurting his feelings.

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  1. Say something

You said yes to the question but no to the ring and haven’t told him yet!  Honesty is the best policy. Expressing how you really feel is important as repressing feelings of disappointment can lead to resentment towards your partner and eventually rub off on your relationship.

Saying something sooner than later is ideal to be happy with a life-long engagement ring. However, it is how you do it.

  1. How do I tell him?

Approach the situation gradually and privately at a time you feel warm and open. As a vulnerable conversation, make sure your tone is gentle. Acknowledging his thought, sincere feelings and time he placed into choosing the ring is important to empathise with his feelings and show that you are coming from good intentions.

Listening is just as important as speaking up. Hear what he has to say. There could be a story behind why he chose that particular ring. Maybe it was a stone or setting their grandmother or mother wore or a particular design they felt was suited to you. This may create meaning in the ring, placing it in a new light.

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  1. Compromising and Modifying

If you are still not satisfied with your engagement ring after hearing his side of the story, kindly propose your reasons for modifying your ring. It could be that you want to make the most of wearing such an expensive jewellery piece and experience the same sincere feelings towards your ring the way he does. Demonstrate that you trust his choice and respect his opinion and style by compromising.

Aim to keep his same idea if the stone is accompanied with meaning, or keep the stone but modify the setting to avoid completely crushing his idea and feelings.  Make sure your fiancé feels a part of the ring modification process by going together to a jeweller and jointly selecting the new ring design. Even spend an afternoon trying rings on together to find a style you both mutually love.

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